Month: December 2019

Transformation

I am beginning to see everyday the process of transformation. 2 1/2 years ago I thought the process would be simple and easy. It has not. I constantly am pulled back to security and comfort in a job that does not provide it. I must let go but many factors, most importantly money keep me stuck in past energy. I am inching toward a new career and existence.

No promises

When I coach people I do everything in my power to give them the opportunity to experience to achieve their objective. I make no promises or guarantees. Failure is likely. It is a high risk situation. Only if people are willing to pay, to sacrifice, to risk can they possible grow. You have to be willing to do everything in your power to achieve your objective no matter how long it takes.

The help of others

Part of what I am showing in this blog is that there is an ebb and flow. No one is 100% focused all the time. I have moments where I get lazy, where I have doubt, where my priorities shift underneath me, my objectives change. It is like an ocean crossing. I may know where I want to go but there are no guarantees what I am going to encounter on my journey or what variables experiences I will have.
High quality coaches are paid millions of dollars a year. The military uses drill sergeants. When military personnel complete boot camp family and friends see them for the first time at graduation. When they see them again they note they are a completely different person. They have changed. That complete change of personhood and priorities does not occur on an individual level. It is the proximity of fellow enlistees. It is the drill sergeant, the commanding officers, the branch of military, the country, the idea of God however you interpret. The entire system and team afford someone an opportunity to change their life. If you truly want to change you must trust a system that gives you the opportunity to grow.
People use personal trainers to achieve weight loss goals. Keeping people focused on a goal is difficult and time consuming. They have to be just as dedicated to helping you grow and you are to actually doing it.

It takes a team

Change and growth is impossible on your own. Staying focused and motivated by yourself is impossible. We are emotional creatures. We base almost all our decisions on how we feel. As a result we are a mess of contradictory objectives. When the pressure is on, the boss is looking at my numbers, or wants to see a report, hear a presentation, when I am accountable I am scared. When I am scared I am motivated.
Hopes and dreams come at us at all times. We seldom can control our emotions. Because we are constantly taking in information and processing our goals and motivations change constantly. They can become opposed in an instant.
You might say on one hand I don’t want to have to work hard. Then almost with the very next though think about how you want to accomplish more. I quit the highest paying job I ever had because I did not travel six days a week. My priority changed. Would I make the same decision now? I am not sure. I am more apt at staying in pressure but at the same time I was sacrificing for the money. I missed my home, my family.
This scenario plays out large and small all the time. One second I want to reach my sales quota and then 30 seconds later I feel tired and wish I could cut out early and go watch a movie. You may want to move one second and then the next want to stay a couple more years where you are at. To stay focused takes more than just you working on your own, it takes a team.

Subjective lag measures

Overall satisfaction is subjective. We can continue to work on the money part and constantly assess the other. And you know what, often times when you stop and look back, even if you didn’t hit your goal it is then you appreciate the journey.
Graduation from high school is a goal, graduating from college. But those are made up goals because you are paying someone for the privilege of putting you through a system. It is a form of entertainment though it does have value. You can put that on a resume and apply for jobs that have more money. When I got my MBA I was instantly able to check a box on applications I hadn’t been able to check previously.

The objective

Very few of us live in a black and white structured league with records and playoff systems and a shiny trophy at the end. We have only one quantifiable metric we can measure, money. The outcome most of seek for personal growth is to increase the amount of money we earn in a given time frame. You are trying to get you more income. Your goal is to make more than you made the year before. To keep moving up the scale and see how high you can get.
Making more money than the year before is the objective. You can measure it. One number is greater than the other.
From here forward that is the objective you are trying to reach. If you accept that, keep reading. If that does not sound like you there is no point to continue.
I am not saying growth and making more money are the only things in life that matter. But in the narrow confines of this work that is what we are talking about. I am not going to talk about much other stuff here.

Give people an experience

“Come in and welcome.” You are in control, don’t ask questions of what someone likes, rather anticipate needs. If you don’t know what they like to drink order coffee, water, tea, lemonade, and soda. Give them a gift. Tell them where to sit “You can sit right here.” The vast majority of people float through life looking to have an experience and expect to pay to receive it. Give them an experience.