Month: December 2019

Maze

The first maze is easy. You might be able to see which route to go and quickly solve. The second maze you might have to stop and look but you can see which way to go. The third requires more ability than you possess. What do you do? Usually just pick a route if you hit a dead end back track and go different way. Trial and error.

That is good if we stick with our objective, to exit the maze. But in life we tend to get emotionally attached to our routes. Back tracking, retracing, staying focused on our objective get lost. We enjoy the journey then hit a dead end. We try to bargain, cajole, reach our objective while staying in our dead end.

Bifurcate the maze, color in the negative space, start from finish, left hand right hand trick.

2 types

My sweatshirt says coach. Everything about me says I am here to help you reach your goals. There are two types of people that need coaching. First people that don’t know what their sweatshirt says or they want it to say. They need help going through the process of chafing their mindset and liking at the world of objectives.

Second are people that tell me exactly what their sweatshirt says, I can see it but they want an extra set of eyes to keep them focused during the process.

Sweatshirt

If you had to wear a sweat shirt with one word that was your objective for the day and everyone could see it what would it say? Or more importantly since it could only have one word what would it NOT say?

Are you that focused, committed?

Would you feel comfortable being committed to that one thing? And that was all anyone knew about you or your energy?

That is the focus of the objective.

Do you know your objective? Do other people know it? Do you results align with it?

Lies

Do you lie to yourself?

Do you feel like you have a plan? That you know what you need to do to be successful?

Yet you struggle to make your house payment, have credit card debt, no savings or retirement and work a job that makes you miserable for a boss you don’t like?

Stop lying to yourself. No plan includes those things. You don’t know what to do.

Now is the time to fix it.

On trial

I am kind of having a crisis of identity. I notice I write these posts on Monday mornings. I am working sales but I hate going to sales meetings with nothing to show for it. On trial and failure. I guess everyone would do it if it were easy?

I feel anxiety gripping my throat. I can’t breathe. I can’t move forward and get a ‘win.’ I can’t let go and accept defeat. I put myself in this situation thinking it was sink or swim. Who knew there was a third option. Just get ground down. I hate doing sales when there are no sales.

get pulled away

I am sitting here writing and I can see how I get pulled away. It is the squares. I come up with a good idea, I right it down and then I want to flit away and not keep pressing and moving forward. I want to just bask in the emotional high that I came up with something decent then spend the rest of the day building dreams in my head about how I am going to write a million dollar book and speak to enthralled audiences.

Focus

In 2019 Jason Shelley was the heir apparent at quarterback for the university of utah football team. He was going to be the starter of a nationally ranked team. People are excited about his abilities and what he can do. Presumably Jason Shelley dreamed of winning games scoring touchdowns and the roar of the crowds adulation.

They brought in Cam Rising. Though he hasn’t played a snap people are more excited by his potential. He has the buzz. Then before practice even begins utah lands a graduate transfer jake Bentley to play quarterback.

This is where the squares and patterns become prominent. What was the original objective of Jason Shelley. To lead the team to touchdowns win football games, make the playoff and win a championship. The circles didn’t change.

But the squares and patterns changed. Does coach doubt me? What made him doubt me? Do they see something I don’t? What did I do wrong? What does he hate me? This is my job, he said so last year. I haven’t had a chance to practice as much. They aren’t even looking at my film.

That is the static, all the emotional and narrative energy that flows through our minds.

Imagine what rickie Fowler had to block out. He was just voted over rated. He probably wanted to stick it to his peers. He was dreaming of the cameras flashing hugging his loved ones, putting the trophy on his mantle. But you see his focus. His mind didn’t wander from the objective. To the good the bad, the confusing, scary or frustrating.

Emotions and feelings are infinitely powerful and they can pull you off your objective like a gust of wind on a high rope.