To put myself in a situation of competition. Where there is a binary choice of success or failure and win. I want to keep putting myself in bigger situations with higher stakes and come out on top.

I have to demand attention and hold it. Being nice and middle of the road makes me a toad

The stress, the anxiety, the feeling of being out of control and over my skis. That is not the problem, that is the payoff.

Sometimes it feels too much but that is the risk of living life. At some point I will look back and remember this moment as one in which I truly lived life to the fullest.

Mike Meyer
Leadership training, Coaching, Consulting
Creator of The 30 Day Job Cleanse

Some days are just slogs. This week has been a slog. I don’t have passion or energy for anything.

Have you ever had a great idea, got started on it with great passion then lost focus a couple of days, weeks or months later? It happens more often than you think. Most of us are great at getting started on new endeavors but have trouble maintaining momentum and seeing the vision through to the end.
As a success coach I work with individuals all the time that want to break past the barriers that keep them stuck and get them to the place they want to be. In my practice I have noticed six barriers to success.
If you are at a place in your life where you want more from your existence perhaps it is one of these areas keeping you stuck. If you can address them you will be on your way to achieving you dreams.
1. Fear of change. Often we say we want a better life or to make a change for the better. But change is not always easy.
When you begin a new endeavor you are focused on changing the things you don’t like, bad bosses, commutes, remedial tasks,the size of your paycheck. Avoiding and overcoming those things excites us. But as we continue to pursue our path we begin to see the things we like potentially change. Our daily routine, time with family, social activities and friendships. Losing or modifying our lifestyle can create a fear that sabotages our potential success.
2. Fear of Success. Everyone knows the super hero adage, “With great power comes great responsibility.” For most of us increased responsibility creates anxiety.
We may not want the attention that comes with more success. Or the long hours. Success can lead to being singled out. Your decisions come under increased scrutiny and your actions are disseminated by others. That pressure of the spotlight, attention and need to be always making decisions that have large consequence keep some from pursuing success.
3. Fear of Failure. We have all had a time in our life where we were embarrassed. Maybe tripped in front of a bunch of people or tried to accomplish a task and failed miserably. That flush red faced embarrassment is hard to swallow.
Most of us cringe at the thought of being expected to accomplish something great only to fail. We worry that we might look like we have an inflated ego and we got what was coming to us. Or we got in over our head and now we are embarrassed.
Or we may have been berated by misguided parents or teachers and we fear the retribution of failure.
Whatever the case the thought of trying and failing for all to see leaves us at a place where we are too paralyzed to try.
4. Self-esteem. In our minds we have a sense of what we can and cannot do. If you don’t believe you can be successful you are probably right. Many people did not achieve all their goals at an early age so they begin telling themselves they failed once they will continue to fail. They fixate on their shortcomings rather than their strengths. This constant negative self-assessment keeps you from letting go, being in the moment and focusing on success
5. Ambition. What is that innate energy that keeps someone pushing for a solution rather than giving up when they hit an obstacle? Anything worth doing is going to have competition, barriers and difficulty. We all face them sooner or later when we try to succeed. Your response is key to your success. Like water running down hill successful people just find a way. when you reach a barrier you go up, around, under. Do you find a different path or give up? Developing a persistent ambition is key to any successful endeavor.
6. control. Most of us believe we have complete control over the negative things that happen in life but no control over the positive. If we run into an obstacle it is because we took a wrong turn or did something stupid. We blame and berate ourselves for not being better or smarter. Yet when something positive happens we attribute it to luck or circumstance. Understanding that you have control over your successes and your areas of improvement is a huge key to success.
If any of the above barriers exist for you or you are not sure which one is holding you back you can take a free assessment here. Remember knowing what you need to work on is the first step to addressing the situation and moving forward to be the best you possible.
mike

Every morning (well, some mornings) I wake up ready to take on the world and get things done. But then I start my familiar routine or activities because they FEEL right. I naturally gravitate to that path off. But they have gotten me what I always get. I am mindfully changing my behavior to achieve a different result.

You want to start your own business and you are amassing the skills and tools necessary but have you looked at the truly biggest barriers you will face.

The mental aspects of success are like the foundation and structure of a building. If they are not sound the whole enterprise will collapse.

Fear of success

Fear of change

Fear of failure

Drive ambition

Self esteem

Control over success factors

There is a space to exist that is not too aggressively ambitious or debilitatingly lax.

If one becomes completely ambitious the result is stress, pain, severe health issues.

Too lax leaves you isolated depressed and hopeless. There is no salvation in either extreme. Be ambitious but pull back and relax. Relax but don’t avoid all responsibility or stress. Finding your in between in those two poles is the dance of life.

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