In California my priority was being a dad. Providing the greater experience for my daughter. I was obsessed with the place we lived. My job performance was a distant third. I just wanted a paycheck and to be left alone. I didn’t have the bandwidth or energy or sacrifice to excel.
I am indifferent to Phoenix. To the apartment. The priority is doing a good job. If I do good at my job I will provide stability my wife and daughter. Everyone will be happy