I have been thinking about love, sex and relationships this morning. What do I do? Do I shut down? Never be in a relationship, have sex, or love someone again? the memory of the WIL is powerful. It overrules the ability to feel desire for another woman. That is fact. The thought of intimacy on any level other than base superficiality is impossible. I will miss the WIL more than I would enjoy the person I am with.
Beyond that I am married. Have been for 21 years. We have a child together. I love my wife. I love my daughter. But I don’t feel physical attraction to my wife. We are good partners in marriage. We are friends. I appreciate her. But I long for physical touch. Do I shut down? Accept a platonic relationship? Denounce sex, claim abstinence?
Do I say “well, the WIL is gone. She hasn’t talked to me in over a year. I need to move on.”
Do I create an illusion? Put on a surface where I am waiting for the WIL.
Or a faithful husband. But frequent hook up sites and have one night stands?
Do I forsake my wife and the WIL? Start over? Go on a legitimate dating site and try and find a healthy relationship?
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