“Come in and welcome.” You are in control, don’t ask questions of what someone likes, rather anticipate needs. If you don’t know what they like to drink order coffee, water, tea, lemonade, and soda. Give them a gift. Tell them where to sit “You can sit right here.” The vast majority of people float through life looking to have an experience and expect to pay to receive it. Give them an experience.

Commit to the goal of growth. There are only three options in life; get better, stay the same or get worse. Constantly striving to improve will break your heart but it is better than the other two.

A leader has to inspire with her or his passion for the mission

Being an extrovert does not mean happier. Yes when we think about being social at specific times I want to be outgoing.

When my daughter had fundraisers for her school they did it at a resort in Orange County. Most times I did not care what car I drove but pulling up in my old truck to the valet stand made me self conscious. But it was a specific time.

Most of my best friends are outgoing, charismatic, extroverts. But I know their struggle and heart to heart talks. They are not quantify happier. They live life a certain way and at times their personality and skill shine. I can say the same for me just at different times and places.

$200,000

Utah regularly

Regular wins

Luxury late model car

Own three/four bedroom ocean view

$85,000

Utah

Late model Sentra

Rent two bedroom

The regular wins is the newcomer to the list. It used to be job satisfaction.

Free time to daydream, read, watch videos. Eat, drink coffee, beer. Write.

I am daydreaming, writing and eating right now 😊

The daydreaming, finding moments of peace and zen is my baseline. I naturally find them. I like them. They were my most cherished moments 10-15 years ago. I still like them but I am close to 48 years old. My career is winding down. I want to be good at something. Be proud of my work, be recognized and rewarded.

And sales suck.

I am not disappointed with the car. The house actually was an upgrade from when I started. I would like to make more money just to cover expenses. Utah could be more often but not terrible.

A stolen moment not working hard used to be a treat because I was getting paid the same as if I was busting my hump. But when I am objective focused I am stealing from myself.

Dreaming feels better than achieving. Even if I have a good job, good pay, ability to grow I am still looking to go bigger, not get tied down. I know when I look back I will appreciate the moment but staying in the moment now is hard.