Tag: focused

The help of others

Part of what I am showing in this blog is that there is an ebb and flow. No one is 100% focused all the time. I have moments where I get lazy, where I have doubt, where my priorities shift underneath me, my objectives change. It is like an ocean crossing. I may know where I want to go but there are no guarantees what I am going to encounter on my journey or what variables experiences I will have.
High quality coaches are paid millions of dollars a year. The military uses drill sergeants. When military personnel complete boot camp family and friends see them for the first time at graduation. When they see them again they note they are a completely different person. They have changed. That complete change of personhood and priorities does not occur on an individual level. It is the proximity of fellow enlistees. It is the drill sergeant, the commanding officers, the branch of military, the country, the idea of God however you interpret. The entire system and team afford someone an opportunity to change their life. If you truly want to change you must trust a system that gives you the opportunity to grow.
People use personal trainers to achieve weight loss goals. Keeping people focused on a goal is difficult and time consuming. They have to be just as dedicated to helping you grow and you are to actually doing it.

It takes a team

Change and growth is impossible on your own. Staying focused and motivated by yourself is impossible. We are emotional creatures. We base almost all our decisions on how we feel. As a result we are a mess of contradictory objectives. When the pressure is on, the boss is looking at my numbers, or wants to see a report, hear a presentation, when I am accountable I am scared. When I am scared I am motivated.
Hopes and dreams come at us at all times. We seldom can control our emotions. Because we are constantly taking in information and processing our goals and motivations change constantly. They can become opposed in an instant.
You might say on one hand I don’t want to have to work hard. Then almost with the very next though think about how you want to accomplish more. I quit the highest paying job I ever had because I did not travel six days a week. My priority changed. Would I make the same decision now? I am not sure. I am more apt at staying in pressure but at the same time I was sacrificing for the money. I missed my home, my family.
This scenario plays out large and small all the time. One second I want to reach my sales quota and then 30 seconds later I feel tired and wish I could cut out early and go watch a movie. You may want to move one second and then the next want to stay a couple more years where you are at. To stay focused takes more than just you working on your own, it takes a team.

Maze

The first maze is easy. You might be able to see which route to go and quickly solve. The second maze you might have to stop and look but you can see which way to go. The third requires more ability than you possess. What do you do? Usually just pick a route if you hit a dead end back track and go different way. Trial and error.

That is good if we stick with our objective, to exit the maze. But in life we tend to get emotionally attached to our routes. Back tracking, retracing, staying focused on our objective get lost. We enjoy the journey then hit a dead end. We try to bargain, cajole, reach our objective while staying in our dead end.

Bifurcate the maze, color in the negative space, start from finish, left hand right hand trick.

2 types

My sweatshirt says coach. Everything about me says I am here to help you reach your goals. There are two types of people that need coaching. First people that don’t know what their sweatshirt says or they want it to say. They need help going through the process of chafing their mindset and liking at the world of objectives.

Second are people that tell me exactly what their sweatshirt says, I can see it but they want an extra set of eyes to keep them focused during the process.

Sweatshirt

If you had to wear a sweat shirt with one word that was your objective for the day and everyone could see it what would it say? Or more importantly since it could only have one word what would it NOT say?

Are you that focused, committed?

Would you feel comfortable being committed to that one thing? And that was all anyone knew about you or your energy?

That is the focus of the objective.

Do you know your objective? Do other people know it? Do you results align with it?

Dominant energy

I was watching a show this morning with my daughter. The main character auditioned to sing the opening number for a television talent show. The whole episode was the adventures she had during the process.

But the character I noticed most was the impresario who was running the show.

He was surrounded by assistants that helped him pull the levers and move the production forward. He had the objective focused energy.

I probably wasn’t supposed to notice him but that is where my head is at now. I thought about the energy it took to decide he wanted to have a show, hire people to realize his vision and hold auditions for singers.

I am realizing more and more I have dueling energies. The one who wants to create worlds and interact with people. And one who wants to burrow down and passively observe the world or just partake in distractions.

For all of my life the observer has been my dominate energy. Even now on a Friday morning I feel the pull of skating at work and relishing the energy of a weekend close at hand.

As I wrote earlier I believe this has to be the way I connect and build a world. It is what I go to in my dominate energy and I do regularly and it is something I can share with others.

Objective Focused Growth

Have you ever wanted to make a change but were not sure how? Or perhaps you started to make a change but it didn’t stick. Do you feel the desire to accomplish more but not sure what that means or how to get started?
All of us feel we have more potential, that life could offer more. We see people living lives that are larger, more fulfilling but we are not unsure how to get to it or unlock our full capability. This blog is about change and how to achieve it. It does this through explaining objective focused growth.