Tag: objective

Perspective

7:53am I am able to find perspective. That reduces my anxiety. I can step outside my situation, be objective. Work has issues. One of the issues is low referral volume. I am fixing it. Instead of spiraling to despair I stay level. I address the issue. I have other ones to work on. I will address them like I do everything else. That is what I am paid to do. I had a dream last night. I was taking blame for issues at work. Then someone mentioned a professional basketball player and his problems in the playoffs. I said I would take blame for that. I caught myself in my dream. It was so absurd I realized I was just piling on problems whether I created them or not. This site had issues before I got here. I am committed to working on them, improving and growing.

No promises

When I coach people I do everything in my power to give them the opportunity to experience to achieve their objective. I make no promises or guarantees. Failure is likely. It is a high risk situation. Only if people are willing to pay, to sacrifice, to risk can they possible grow. You have to be willing to do everything in your power to achieve your objective no matter how long it takes.

The objective

Very few of us live in a black and white structured league with records and playoff systems and a shiny trophy at the end. We have only one quantifiable metric we can measure, money. The outcome most of seek for personal growth is to increase the amount of money we earn in a given time frame. You are trying to get you more income. Your goal is to make more than you made the year before. To keep moving up the scale and see how high you can get.
Making more money than the year before is the objective. You can measure it. One number is greater than the other.
From here forward that is the objective you are trying to reach. If you accept that, keep reading. If that does not sound like you there is no point to continue.
I am not saying growth and making more money are the only things in life that matter. But in the narrow confines of this work that is what we are talking about. I am not going to talk about much other stuff here.

Maze

The first maze is easy. You might be able to see which route to go and quickly solve. The second maze you might have to stop and look but you can see which way to go. The third requires more ability than you possess. What do you do? Usually just pick a route if you hit a dead end back track and go different way. Trial and error.

That is good if we stick with our objective, to exit the maze. But in life we tend to get emotionally attached to our routes. Back tracking, retracing, staying focused on our objective get lost. We enjoy the journey then hit a dead end. We try to bargain, cajole, reach our objective while staying in our dead end.

Bifurcate the maze, color in the negative space, start from finish, left hand right hand trick.

Sweatshirt

If you had to wear a sweat shirt with one word that was your objective for the day and everyone could see it what would it say? Or more importantly since it could only have one word what would it NOT say?

Are you that focused, committed?

Would you feel comfortable being committed to that one thing? And that was all anyone knew about you or your energy?

That is the focus of the objective.

Do you know your objective? Do other people know it? Do you results align with it?

Next step

My introverted self only takes relationships to a superficial level. In order to achieve my objective I need to develop more interpersonal skills. I had a great lunch really connected. But on a personal level that is all I usually do. I don’t have close friends I talk with regularly or build close relationships. I am good at going to the lunch, small talk, making plans but not following through. Hence why I am not consistent and I don’t sustain growth

Ego

The ego will roar to be fed. Achieving the objective seldom happens on the first effort. Failure leads to assessment of what went wrong. We don’t know what went wrong so we take the “facts” of what happened and determine an alternate course. Maybe the first two or three times we remain confident.

Then it happens again and again. The objective isn’t achieved. We start to doubt ability.

We can give up and not try but it is still new so we don’t do that. But we look for patterns. We see shortcomings and others don’t fix. Blame them. Blame situation. And since they have been identified we are hyper aware of them. We see failure, we see the perceived reason. We associate them.

The situation runs out, we give up or we are removed.

I worked sales on business consulting. Completed training, did ride along, practiced my pitch. I was raring to go. They sent me five leads. I failed. They sent me five more. Nothing. Four. Four. Five. It my last one had a good talk. Got farther than I ever had. I felt I was figuring it out.

Come Monday I didn’t get any leads. They said sorry. Next day sent me two. I didn’t make a sale. No leads. No leads. Complained. 2 leads. Nothing. Next Monday nothing. Tuesday nothing. Wednesday I get an email I won’t get any more leads. I didn’t produce.

I had a week where they really fed me.

Then just a couple more. Why waste the leads?

So you know what I did? I started cold calling to make my own leads.

Specific Objective

Think back to when you were in high school. What was the objective? The purpose of going to high school was to learn, pass all the requirements and get a diploma. The objective was graduation.
But how we got there was subjective. Some took photography classes, others played sports. Some were in Advanced classes while others were in remedial. Some worked hard to achieve all A’s while others wanted good grades but were happy with some B’s and perhaps a C or two.
The fact is we got to subjectively choose our path to the objective. However as we get older the path narrows. Say your objective was to get into a prestigious school. Then you had to be much more diligent on your grades, your activities. The objective became more specific so the behavior had to change.
Most of use subjectively feel our way through life forging our own path and that path leads us to where we are. We are on an adventure to see where life takes us. But then we want to achieve more but we only know the path we took. To achieve a new objective we must forge a new path. and to forge a new path we must focus on the objective and block out all the noise that seduces us to go down the familiar path and receive familiar results.