inspired by arch profiles locus of control material

If you are like me you have a typical locus of control, meaning what you attribute events to whether you made them happen or something else like luck occurred.

My locus of control when a negative event happens is high internal. Meaning I blame myself and my effort. When something good happens I sift through the environmental factors and see how they made the success. It is so easy to own the blame and none of the success.

Are successful people wired to look at the world different? Do they have high internal locus for success and low internal for failure?

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From Arch profiles

CTAA (Coaching & Trainability Attitude Assessment)

Would you be successful?
SLPro – R2 (Success Likelihood Profile – 2nd Revision)

Do you accept blame or credit

LCAST – R2 (Locus of Control & Attribution Style Test – 2nd Revision)

Risk taking
RiskTA – R (Risk-taking Assessment – Revised)

Entrepreneurial assessments
EntAP (Entrepreneurial Aptitude Profile)
EPA (Entrepreneurial Personality Assessment)

Type of salesperson
SPPP – R4 (Salesperson Personality Profile – 4th Revision)

Vocational
VoSPA – R (Vocational Style & Personality Assessment – Revised)

In sales I meet many business owners. I can see and feel the ones that are successful immediately. Their energy naturally flows and connects with others.

Conversely I can see the ones that are lost, struggling to connect or flow.

What causes the energy to properly flow? Can it be learned? Is it situational?

What makes for success? I was successful as a chaplain and comfortable. I wanted challenge and money.

In any endeavor every hand is a winner and every hand is a loser. The art is how you play it.

More than half the time I am hiding out in my car, looking busy, doing eye wash to look good. That is fine for most jobs but if you are a business owner or a sales person, someone trying to achieve a specific objective it is poison and a waste of time.

I have done it. I have been fired, laid off, chased off jobs as an executive and a front line person because I couldn’t break the habit. I didn’t want to fail, I didn’t want to be embarrassed, explain to my family why I am switching jobs again, why I had to dip into my retirement, run up the credit cards, take out a loan. All because the job was so adverse all that shit was easier than actually working.

Juxtaposition that against the times I made a sale or was in the done, connecting with people. I loved those. But getting myself into the zone, trucking my mind, making the bed, self starting etc. getting the engine started and into gear. If only I could find that mindset on a consistent basis.

I am in the exact same spot as last year but better at what I do. High performance coach vs thirty day.

Getting from

Even hitting a great level can be hard, maintaining it or finding a way to win. Tiger woods won 14 majors and each one was won in a consistently similar way. He knew a path to victory and followed it.

I wasn’t embarrassed to say I was a chaplain

I wasn’t embarrassed to say I was a sales manager

But I am embarrassed to say I am a coach. It sounds so selfish, pie in the sky and fake.

I can’t focus or think about doing anything else.,

I feel in control and becoming what I want when I am sitting at my computer, when I am working on my theories. That is why people practice or work all the time. I feel anxious when I am not being that person. I am writing in this blog now because producing something and acknowledging those feelings are therapeutic.

Your goal is to be great.
First you need to know what you are trying to accomplish. What vehicle to drive and what to strive for.
Binary
quantifiable

How to get it
articulate and broadcast(sweatshirt)this creates clarity on your part and draws in allies. Usually we see the negatives of doing this, fear of failure, embarrassment. Have to change that energy now.
Immediate goals
incremental growth

In a article about a rock guitarist he mentioned that he practiced 10 hours a day. How much time do you put into your pursuit? what is the goal of the pursuit? is it perfection of the craft or the rewards from being great? What is the point of excellence if you don’t enjoy it? What is the point of NOT being excellent if it is not enjoyed?
Should I keep track of my time down to the minute?
This is the second layer of success. We are sold it in portrayals of people with huge sums of money and lots of free time.
We are told to create a vision board so that we are always focused on these things.

We are story tellers so we build a model of what we would feel and experience when we are successful.

You often hear people that win the lottery or become famous say they don’t know what to do because nothing prepared them for this. You day dreaming cannot prepare you for what awaits you when you achieve your objective. Cars houses, zeros in your bank account are day dreams around your objective. Think about it, if you are thinking about those things and not working toward your objective you are not focused.

So lets make a deal, achieve your objective and they we will have a separate discussion of what to do AFTER you achieve your objective.

As a chaplain I was committed to the team. I was passionate. I provided spiritual support, I explained benefits, I interacted with the community.

I was valued by my supervisor. I was seen as a valuable member of a successful team. I believed I was valuable.

As a sales person I was seen as valuable because I was bequeathed good accounts but I didn’t believe I provided much value.

As a manager our team was successful. I felt I served a purpose because I performed necessary managerial functions.