I can feel right now, 8:45am, Wednesday morning my energy turn. The thought of just watching videos reading articles, dreaming, working on my own business feels so seductive. I could go make a sales call now.

Know what you want

Not as easy as sounds. Example of work less earn more.

Binary

Immediate

Quantifiable

Competitive. If there is no competition there is no value or struggle.

Advertise it sweatshirt

Change of life

Fear of failure

Worthiness imposter syndrome

Luck locus of control

Social connection

I spent a lot of time wishing for better cards. Instead of playing the hand dealt I would dream of getting one more card or the next hand. This is my situation. I will play my hand great.

1. Do I truly deserve success?
2. How will it change my life?
Will success make my life more complicated?
Will success change my life and relationships in a way that makes me uncomfortable?
I am not sure I want the notoriety success entails
What if the responsibility of success is overbearing?
Sometimes I like to just get by and enjoy the simple things in life
3. Will I look self-centered and egostitical?
4. Fear of failure
What if I try to be successful and fail?
I can’t handle criticism or negative feedback
5. Imposter syndrome
Success is just luck, not skill
I am a fake
If I succeed I am lucky, if I fail I suck
6. Lack of confidence
I don’t have the personality, mindset, or training to succeed
I am not competitive
7. Sabotage
I always pull back when success seems close

inspired by arch profiles locus of control material

If you are like me you have a typical locus of control, meaning what you attribute events to whether you made them happen or something else like luck occurred.

My locus of control when a negative event happens is high internal. Meaning I blame myself and my effort. When something good happens I sift through the environmental factors and see how they made the success. It is so easy to own the blame and none of the success.

Are successful people wired to look at the world different? Do they have high internal locus for success and low internal for failure?

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From Arch profiles

CTAA (Coaching & Trainability Attitude Assessment)

Would you be successful?
SLPro – R2 (Success Likelihood Profile – 2nd Revision)

Do you accept blame or credit

LCAST – R2 (Locus of Control & Attribution Style Test – 2nd Revision)

Risk taking
RiskTA – R (Risk-taking Assessment – Revised)

Entrepreneurial assessments
EntAP (Entrepreneurial Aptitude Profile)
EPA (Entrepreneurial Personality Assessment)

Type of salesperson
SPPP – R4 (Salesperson Personality Profile – 4th Revision)

Vocational
VoSPA – R (Vocational Style & Personality Assessment – Revised)

In sales I meet many business owners. I can see and feel the ones that are successful immediately. Their energy naturally flows and connects with others.

Conversely I can see the ones that are lost, struggling to connect or flow.

What causes the energy to properly flow? Can it be learned? Is it situational?

What makes for success? I was successful as a chaplain and comfortable. I wanted challenge and money.

In any endeavor every hand is a winner and every hand is a loser. The art is how you play it.

More than half the time I am hiding out in my car, looking busy, doing eye wash to look good. That is fine for most jobs but if you are a business owner or a sales person, someone trying to achieve a specific objective it is poison and a waste of time.

I have done it. I have been fired, laid off, chased off jobs as an executive and a front line person because I couldn’t break the habit. I didn’t want to fail, I didn’t want to be embarrassed, explain to my family why I am switching jobs again, why I had to dip into my retirement, run up the credit cards, take out a loan. All because the job was so adverse all that shit was easier than actually working.

Juxtaposition that against the times I made a sale or was in the done, connecting with people. I loved those. But getting myself into the zone, trucking my mind, making the bed, self starting etc. getting the engine started and into gear. If only I could find that mindset on a consistent basis.

I am in the exact same spot as last year but better at what I do. High performance coach vs thirty day.

Getting from

Even hitting a great level can be hard, maintaining it or finding a way to win. Tiger woods won 14 majors and each one was won in a consistently similar way. He knew a path to victory and followed it.

I wasn’t embarrassed to say I was a chaplain

I wasn’t embarrassed to say I was a sales manager

But I am embarrassed to say I am a coach. It sounds so selfish, pie in the sky and fake.

I can’t focus or think about doing anything else.,