3:34am if I go back to California I would live in San Clemente. It is enough like home to have everything I love about California while not touching the nerves that broke me in January.

I have been getting headaches this past week. Allergies. The dust, wind blowing, and whatever is in the air makes my nose run and eyes water. I get headaches. They aren’t acutely painful but they make me nauseous. I can’t function. I get grouchy. I am not attentive to my responsibilities. I am a diminished asset.

Arizona weather is discombobulating. California the wether was nice. There Is variance. Now is the grey, colder time of spring in California. Every day on arozona is the same. It is summer now. It will be summer later. Every day is summer.

2:57am I am at peace. At rest. I relax and re charge over weekends.

Background: I feel stressed on weekends. An obligation to do something that improves my life. Make more money? Create something? I don’t even know what. I fill empty time with indulgences. Food alcohol, porn, sex, gambling. What is the best way to spend my time away from work? Starting with that question already sets the table for frustration. I have been down this road. Ask the question, don’t find an answer, have a drink, stupid time.

I don’t talk much about work. We are reorganizing our work distribution. I have too many RN’s working triage and not enough working case management. We are changing course. Instead of dictating a new model I am giving it back to them. We have Nine RN’s to case manage and triage less than 50 Low acuity patients in predominantly assisted living communities. The number of RN’s is slightly deceiving. One is my director. Another I am moving to management. That gives me 7 on a staffing model of six. Two are on leave. One is retiring. Leave comes back as the other retires. I have two case managers. Another case manager in between moving to management. I can delay the change or have her do both. And four full time triage RN’s. Between two triage nurses the took six calls all week and did one triage visit. Something to think about.

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7:40pm Nothing profound. Just putting a cap on the day with one last check in.

2:57pm in my office. I am killing time. Shuffling papers. I am listening to the Look what The Cat Dragged In album by Poison. It came out 35 years ago. I used to listen to this cassette over and over when I was a freshman in high school. Look What The Cat Dragged In, Open Up and Say “Ahh”, Flesh and Blood. Those albums are the soundtrack of my high school years.

I used to be the king of time off. I could think of a million things to do beside go to school or work. At college in Nebraska I would skip afternoon class, go to the mall and buy a new Metal Edge magazine (pre-internet). Then I would drive to the next town over. Go to my favorite pizza place. I would sit and eat while I read my magazine. Then I would drive into Omaha. I would got to a movie at the mall. Eat even more. Then I would walk around the mall. Go to the music store (pre-internet). I would leave, grab an ice cream treat then go back to Fremont. I had to stop myself from doing this too often! (I didn’t have a lot of money and even with a teen metabolism it was a lot of food and I needed to pass classes. When I worked as a chaplain of a day was slow I would leave early and drive out to west wendover Nevada. Listen to music. Maybe make some bets on the weekend football games. The drive was four hours round trip. Now I can’t think of much to do. Today is slow. I have no meetings scheduled. A perfect day to have fun. I appreciate being more work focused but everyone in a while I miss remembering what fun was like

I am tired. Mentally. Someone came into the gym this morning. He didn’t work out. He put his coat on the dumbbell rack then sat on a recumbent bike. He fiddled with his phone. Smelled of cigarettes. There hasn’t been anyone in the gym with me for a while. I was shocked when I heard the door click. I didn’t have my mask so I kept my distance. Forced me to modify my workout. Change is good. Movers called yesterday. Now they are saying delivery will be tomorrow (Saturday)

2:02am laying in bed. I self edit. I contemplate if something is really worth sharing. I will stop. I share my feelings, my thoughts.

The WIL is my best friend. I tell her everything. When I see a text from her my body floods with happiness. No matter where she is I want to be with her. I love her. I love being intimate with her. I love talking to her. Hearing about her day. What adventures she had, people she met.

We haven’t communicated in 14 months. We haven’t seen each other in over a year and a half. Those numbers don’t mean anything. I am here. Waiting.

Having one of those days where I feel like my insides are running a million mph. Trying to stay calm. Focused. I want to get everything done 5 minutes ago.

“Each bears his own guilt, his own anxiety, his own dying.” Helmut Thielicke, Out of the depths

I was informed I have posted something on this site 100 days straight…