If you had to wear a sweat shirt with one word that was your objective for the day and everyone could see it what would it say? Or more importantly since it could only have one word what would it NOT say?
Are you that focused, committed?
Would you feel comfortable being committed to that one thing? And that was all anyone knew about you or your energy?
That is the focus of the objective.
Do you know your objective? Do other people know it? Do you results align with it?
Do you lie to yourself?
Do you feel like you have a plan? That you know what you need to do to be successful?
Yet you struggle to make your house payment, have credit card debt, no savings or retirement and work a job that makes you miserable for a boss you don’t like?
Stop lying to yourself. No plan includes those things. You don’t know what to do.
Now is the time to fix it.
Successful people are born with opportunity instinct or a combination of both.
The rest of us must find it or learn it.
Stop sitting around feeling bitter. Get off your ass and change your life.
I am kind of having a crisis of identity. I notice I write these posts on Monday mornings. I am working sales but I hate going to sales meetings with nothing to show for it. On trial and failure. I guess everyone would do it if it were easy?
I feel anxiety gripping my throat. I can’t breathe. I can’t move forward and get a ‘win.’ I can’t let go and accept defeat. I put myself in this situation thinking it was sink or swim. Who knew there was a third option. Just get ground down. I hate doing sales when there are no sales.
How do some people achieve amazing results while others stay stuck? They use techniques instinctively. If you weren’t lucky to be born with those skills innately it is up to you to learn them if you want to be successful. It is a more difficult process but you have to play the hand dealt you.
I am sitting here writing and I can see how I get pulled away. It is the squares. I come up with a good idea, I right it down and then I want to flit away and not keep pressing and moving forward. I want to just bask in the emotional high that I came up with something decent then spend the rest of the day building dreams in my head about how I am going to write a million dollar book and speak to enthralled audiences.
In 2019 Jason Shelley was the heir apparent at quarterback for the university of utah football team. He was going to be the starter of a nationally ranked team. People are excited about his abilities and what he can do. Presumably Jason Shelley dreamed of winning games scoring touchdowns and the roar of the crowds adulation.
They brought in Cam Rising. Though he hasn’t played a snap people are more excited by his potential. He has the buzz. Then before practice even begins utah lands a graduate transfer jake Bentley to play quarterback.
This is where the squares and patterns become prominent. What was the original objective of Jason Shelley. To lead the team to touchdowns win football games, make the playoff and win a championship. The circles didn’t change.
But the squares and patterns changed. Does coach doubt me? What made him doubt me? Do they see something I don’t? What did I do wrong? What does he hate me? This is my job, he said so last year. I haven’t had a chance to practice as much. They aren’t even looking at my film.
That is the static, all the emotional and narrative energy that flows through our minds.
Imagine what rickie Fowler had to block out. He was just voted over rated. He probably wanted to stick it to his peers. He was dreaming of the cameras flashing hugging his loved ones, putting the trophy on his mantle. But you see his focus. His mind didn’t wander from the objective. To the good the bad, the confusing, scary or frustrating.
Emotions and feelings are infinitely powerful and they can pull you off your objective like a gust of wind on a high rope.
Make your goals immediate. I am going to achieve my objective today. Not some for a quarter or a week or month
I go into this weird state where I have energy, time to do stuff but I get all pissy and anxious and end up just stewing. Sometimes I don’t have any energy and other times I can’t properly direct it. How do I get it flowing and growing?
My introverted self only takes relationships to a superficial level. In order to achieve my objective I need to develop more interpersonal skills. I had a great lunch really connected. But on a personal level that is all I usually do. I don’t have close friends I talk with regularly or build close relationships. I am good at going to the lunch, small talk, making plans but not following through. Hence why I am not consistent and I don’t sustain growth
