Your goal is to be great.
First you need to know what you are trying to accomplish. What vehicle to drive and what to strive for.
Binary
quantifiable
How to get it
articulate and broadcast(sweatshirt)this creates clarity on your part and draws in allies. Usually we see the negatives of doing this, fear of failure, embarrassment. Have to change that energy now.
Immediate goals
incremental growth
In a article about a rock guitarist he mentioned that he practiced 10 hours a day. How much time do you put into your pursuit? what is the goal of the pursuit? is it perfection of the craft or the rewards from being great? What is the point of excellence if you don’t enjoy it? What is the point of NOT being excellent if it is not enjoyed?
Should I keep track of my time down to the minute?
This is the second layer of success. We are sold it in portrayals of people with huge sums of money and lots of free time.
We are told to create a vision board so that we are always focused on these things.
We are story tellers so we build a model of what we would feel and experience when we are successful.
You often hear people that win the lottery or become famous say they don’t know what to do because nothing prepared them for this. You day dreaming cannot prepare you for what awaits you when you achieve your objective. Cars houses, zeros in your bank account are day dreams around your objective. Think about it, if you are thinking about those things and not working toward your objective you are not focused.
So lets make a deal, achieve your objective and they we will have a separate discussion of what to do AFTER you achieve your objective.
As a chaplain I was committed to the team. I was passionate. I provided spiritual support, I explained benefits, I interacted with the community.
I was valued by my supervisor. I was seen as a valuable member of a successful team. I believed I was valuable.
As a sales person I was seen as valuable because I was bequeathed good accounts but I didn’t believe I provided much value.
As a manager our team was successful. I felt I served a purpose because I performed necessary managerial functions.
“Come in and welcome.” You are in control, don’t ask questions of what someone likes, rather anticipate needs. If you don’t know what they like to drink order coffee, water, tea, lemonade, and soda. Give them a gift. Tell them where to sit “You can sit right here.” The vast majority of people float through life looking to have an experience and expect to pay to receive it. Give them an experience.
Commit to the goal of growth. There are only three options in life; get better, stay the same or get worse. Constantly striving to improve will break your heart but it is better than the other two.
A leader has to inspire with her or his passion for the mission
Being an extrovert does not mean happier. Yes when we think about being social at specific times I want to be outgoing.
When my daughter had fundraisers for her school they did it at a resort in Orange County. Most times I did not care what car I drove but pulling up in my old truck to the valet stand made me self conscious. But it was a specific time.
Most of my best friends are outgoing, charismatic, extroverts. But I know their struggle and heart to heart talks. They are not quantify happier. They live life a certain way and at times their personality and skill shine. I can say the same for me just at different times and places.
$200,000
Utah regularly
Regular wins
Luxury late model car
Own three/four bedroom ocean view
$85,000
Utah
Late model Sentra
Rent two bedroom
The regular wins is the newcomer to the list. It used to be job satisfaction.
Free time to daydream, read, watch videos. Eat, drink coffee, beer. Write.
I am daydreaming, writing and eating right now 😊
The daydreaming, finding moments of peace and zen is my baseline. I naturally find them. I like them. They were my most cherished moments 10-15 years ago. I still like them but I am close to 48 years old. My career is winding down. I want to be good at something. Be proud of my work, be recognized and rewarded.
And sales suck.
I am not disappointed with the car. The house actually was an upgrade from when I started. I would like to make more money just to cover expenses. Utah could be more often but not terrible.
A stolen moment not working hard used to be a treat because I was getting paid the same as if I was busting my hump. But when I am objective focused I am stealing from myself.
Dreaming feels better than achieving. Even if I have a good job, good pay, ability to grow I am still looking to go bigger, not get tied down. I know when I look back I will appreciate the moment but staying in the moment now is hard.
