In the drive to work thinking how becoming a parent was so hard. There just isn’t enough time in the day to have it all. Self care, exercise,’. Work. Attentive parent.

Becoming a dad gave me everything and took everything away. I am thankful. I wouldn’t change it. But it is hard. I feel guilty saying that.

The temptations is to wallow in a problem. I can write hundreds of word when I am rethink to sort out a negative feeling. It is also easier to wallow. The energy just naturally likes on and seeps in to my soul. But it lives me empty. Choosing to take the time to get dressed, look good. Be the star. Take energy and attention requires commitment. Focus. But is more rewarding

I am the star of my narrative. I am the author of the story. I choose what I experience and how I interpret events. I receive blessings. Gifts.

(Just to note and release) before I’m writing and telling myself the facts from above I would paint myself as a loser or a victim. Trapped. Searching for a way out. List and frustrated. When I type the words above I can feel the flow of my energy shift (side note, autocorrect changed energy shift to merry shits) the energy emanates outward. Not crushingly inward.

I am the leader. I flow outwards. I am blessed and happy. I deserve. I harness the energy. Control it. I am the leader. The champion

A lot of what this post is alluding to has to do with feeling betrayed and abandoned by the WIL. And old energy from past jobs. Time for the Arizona cleaver. Or Phoenix cleaver

I have been thinking about love, sex and relationships this morning. What do I do? Do I shut down? Never be in a relationship, have sex, or love someone again? the memory of the WIL is powerful. It overrules the ability to feel desire for another woman. That is fact. The thought of intimacy on any level other than base superficiality is impossible. I will miss the WIL more than I would enjoy the person I am with.

Beyond that I am married. Have been for 21 years. We have a child together. I love my wife. I love my daughter. But I don’t feel physical attraction to my wife. We are good partners in marriage. We are friends. I appreciate her. But I long for physical touch. Do I shut down? Accept a platonic relationship? Denounce sex, claim abstinence?

Do I say “well, the WIL is gone. She hasn’t talked to me in over a year. I need to move on.”

Do I create an illusion? Put on a surface where I am waiting for the WIL.

Or a faithful husband. But frequent hook up sites and have one night stands?

Do I forsake my wife and the WIL? Start over? Go on a legitimate dating site and try and find a healthy relationship?

I am translating the posts in this blog to a word document for some type of publication. I have written hundreds, probably coming close to a thousand blog posts. I examine whether the posts would be interesting to other people. Who is the audience? Dose the audience change from time to time? Who would want to read this?

Sometimes I jot down thoughts. Other times I write to keep myself sane. Sometimes I have an interesting train of thought I want to explore.

As this point in my translating I am almost to the point where I start my new job. Which is the end of the first volume. I read a post about a dream I had where my dad and the WIL were both present. It hit me hard. I have never had my own writing hit me like that.

6:09am the translation is complete up to starting the new job

7:23am I am focused on the future. I am goal oriented. I have plans. Objectives. I hit my targets. I dress well. I live for the day to begin so I can step on stage and star. I am the leader. The focal point. The captain. The energy.

Sex alcohol and work. For the last two decades those have defined who I am. Nothing profound to say. They are the activities which much of my waking life revolve around. Coffee, exercising. Reading. Eating. Now I spend more time writing in the journal. Wasting time. I wiled away thousands of hours just scrolling through content mindlessly. Watching tv mindlessly.

The farther away I get my youth, the chaplaincy the more it feels like a movie of my life. I am pretty sure I wrote about his already but the feeling of having lived while I had the chance. I am thankful for what I was given. In many ways I paid enormous prices for my gifts but I am still thankful.

Sex and drinking. Anticipating and aftermath took up enormous bandwidth. When I was younger I craved freeing up time devoted to vices. Time meant opportunity to achieve more. Apparently that is true. I do have more energy for work. I can focus more. But like this coming weekend I anticipate anxiety. Not sex. I threw away my boner pills and deleted all hook up apps/profiles. But I might drink. I wish I could have a couple drinks while I did something rather than drinking as an activity. Drinking while doing something is having one or two drinks. Having a buzz of mellowness while being busy. Drinking as an activity is drinking 4 to 9 drinks. Sitting watching videos. Crying over memories and losses or singing in the mirror then passing out and feeling lethargic for 24 to 48 hours.

My big plan is to watch golf and drink rum and cola. But really. That activity will last four hours top. Then it is preparing to mitigate hangover symptoms, passing out for a about four hours. Fitful tossing in bed for four hours. Getting up. If I am lucky I don’t have a crushing headache or wrenching heaves. I just feel internally exhausted, waste a day being unproductive day then go back to bed

I am administrator on call tonight for the first time. I was deep asleep at 10:10pm when a nurse called me about a patient revocation. Now I am awake. Gives me time to write.

At 49 I don’t believe this will go anywhere. I have tried for over 25 years. Writing millions of words. But then hospice has clicked again after thirteen years so you never know. I am confident, brazen, bold and strong

My wife can say I cheated on her. I fell in live with another woman. I gave my heart body and soul to someone else. I failed as a husband.

I did not cheat on the WIL. She owns me completely. Even though I physically failed to remain faithful those are meaningless moments of weakness. I would die for the WIL. I told her she could cut my dick off and keep it in a jar. I don’t need it or want it unless it is to be with her. When I was with other people I was a stupid kid left alone with a loaded gun. I was hopelessly doomed to fail from biological urges. But those ego strokes only validated further I was giving the WIL the best version of me. I don’t doubt she was physically with other people when we were together. She alluded to as much when we last were together. I just never ever want to talk about it. That is not a conversation I can have. We are frail. Broken and human. I am her sole possession for all eternity